Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Problem and solution

Many people find interpersonal relationships the most challenging aspect of their personal and/or work lives. How can such relationships be enhanced by the development of emotional intelligence?

Interpersonal relationship should be enhanced by the development to emotional intelligence. Communication is what people do in their daily lives, they have to contact with different kinds of people not only at work but also in their personal lives. That is why many people find interpersonal relationships are the most challenging aspect in their lives. How can it be enhanced? Firstly, identifying oneself mentally with a person and understanding his/her feelings. Get to know what bothers them, how they work, how they think, it makes other people feel free to talk with you. For instance, one of your friends is sad because she got a bad result for last semester. You know the reason about which she is unhappy, so you go over and comfort her. She might feel better after talking with you, which is good interpersonal relationship.Secondly, being a good listener. There is one saying “if you want to get some respects from other people, show some respects first”, means you want other people listen to you, then you have to listen to them first. In listening, we listen but may not know what the speaker is talking but in empathetic listening, we place ourselves in the speaker’s place, figure out what he/she is feeling and identify with his/her problems. Those are the requirements for being a good listener. All in all, in order to enhance the interpersonal relationship, we have to understand other people’s feeling and have some skill of empathy at the same time.

4 comments:

Cao Mengwei said...

I hope you can identify the problem more detail. so that first it will help to clarify to ppl what you want to say here in the essay; Secondly it is easier to grab attention.

Ma Li said...

ok thank you, i got it.

JIAN said...

I think you need to make the paragraph much closer to the topic.

Brad Blackstone said...

There's good info in this paragraph, and good insights, but there are a few problems with run on sentences ("Communication is what people do in their daily lives, they have to contact with different kinds of people not only at work but also in their personal lives.") and with fragments ( "Firstly, identifying oneself mentally with a person and understanding his/her feelings."/"Secondly, being a good listener."). Your topic sentence could also be moved to give more direction to the paragraph right from the start. Also, I would leave out the question.

Thanks for your effort!